I believe that one of the greatest causes of suffering is attachment. The more we can learn to let go of the old & known while embracing change, we make room for new things to come into our experience. But it is our attachments that creates our struggles & therefore so many of us associate growth with struggle. Although most people do grow through struggle there is another way to grow…
But its choice we have to make consciously. We can easily grow through joy & appreciation but that involves making changes,knowing when to let go of things that no longer serve you, being open to learn something new & accepting new forms of perspectives & people into your life.
We attach ourselves to things because we feel that it’s the best we will ever get. I remember when I got into my first serious relationship at 18. After almost four years of being in that relationship & knowing deep down that I was no longer happy nor fulfilled by it. Yet, I couldn’t muster up the courage to do what I knew my deepest & highest self was telling me to do.
Why?
I was attached to the relationship, I was attached to the comfort of familiarity, and confusing attachment with LOVE because it was all that I knew at that moment.
I even recall the times I would explore the possibility of walking away in my mind & then feeling in that moment like it was best I was ever going to get. Despite the fact that I had been very unhappy for a while…
Isn’t that interesting, how we stick around in situation we KNOW don’t serve us but we rationalize with ourselves to justify not following through with what we know at a core level?
And it’s because of our attachments,our personality which is always afraid of the new & unknown.
But when you practice non attachment the path becomes easier, there is a sense of incredible freedom that you gain within yourself that allows you to feel calmer, peaceful and more joyful within. That freedom is what creates true inner security, the less bondage we have the more inner security we have in essence.
Learning to detach from strong emotions, from needing praise and/or validation, from needing things to work out in a specific way. Detaching ourselves from needing a relationship or a person to feel whole, detaching ourselves from needing to save people from their mistakes, detaching from needing others to change or behave in a certain way, detachment from our judgements & beliefs etc…
Attachments come in many forms and only YOU have the ability to change your life by taking action on what you know is true for you, despite your fears of the unknown. Understand that over time everything changes nothing is meant to stay forever the same. People will come and go in your life and giving others the freedom to go their own way is the greatest gift you can gift yourself & another. We are always being challenged to grow, to think in more expansive & new ways and the only way to expand is to let go of the old & embrace the new that is yet to come.
Non attachment = FREEDOM and it’s an important quality to develop for it’s an important piece to mastering yourself in this human experience.
Love & Light
